“Nobody is gonna marry you” “please get married soon so I can have your room”, teasing your siblings with such words is all fun and games until your sibling is actually getting married. As soon as the news of them getting married breaks out, nothing actually appears funny to you, right?
Well, the siblings relationship is a very weird one, it is overwhelming, pure, sensitive, nerve wrenching sometimes, actually it is much more complicated than describing in a few words. For the best example, I would use the reference of tom and jerry, which i’m sure every reader is familiar with. The kind of relationship they had, fighting endlessly each day but still sticking by each other’s side, it accurately expresses how sibling’s relationships are.
But one fine day, you have to get ready for the fact that your sibling is about to start a new venture of life with their better half. For you, it may be a sudden change that you are not ready for, and while you may send flowers online to congratulate them, you adhere to so many mixed emotions simultaneously. Today I’m going to discuss the different stages one goes through when their sibling is getting married soon.
Happy And Sad At The Same Time
As soon as you learn that your sibling is taking this big step of marrying someone, then rush in so many emotions and if you cannot understand that whether you are happy for them or sad right now, don’t worry, it is completely normal. If you think practically, marriage is a reality of life that you cannot ignore. So, the practical side of your brain is very much prepared for it, so you are happy for them. but it is the emotional side of the brain that actually makes you sad. It makes you think hundreds and thousands of things that are going to change between you two, build up scenarios that put you in the second priority and hence, makes you sad over the changing things.
Thought Of Their Marriage Kills You Within
Initially the emotion of sadness is more powerful than the happiness. You two grew up together, he or she was your constant support, a shoulder to cry on and someone who gave you undivided attention in the whole world. But now, you cannot expect them to be the same because of course someone is going to have their attention too. This is inevitable because they are going to change, may be very little, but you will miss the old version for sure.
Start Missing Their Presence
If it is your sister who is going to another house after marriage, then you know how lonely you are going to be soon. Which is why you already start missing her presence because soon she is going to get busy with her wedding shopping and planning stuff. In case it’s your bro, you are still going to miss his presence because a new person has entered his life, you cannot expect them to be available all like he used to be. The new person is going to adjust in 24 hours of his day cutting off your time.
Try To Become More Closer
Well, the thought of their marriage is already killing you, and the dreadful feeling of being left out on your own and having to share your favourite person with someone else just make you jealous. This jealousy makes you try even harder to become even closer to your sibling so that they never ever think of replacing you. Hence, you look for ways to get closer to them. For example, you can try placing online cake delivery and the enjoy it with your dearest sibling. Common people with married siblings will surely relate.
Finally Accept It!!!
Finally you mold yourself according to the situation because there is hardly anything else that you can do. Acceptance has to come one day because no matter how sad you are, you know it is a very big and most important happy event in your sibling’s life. So, you leave your fears behind and be their cheerleader for the day like you always have been. Thus, you learn how to fit in whatever time they can spare you.
These are some common stages that people go through when their sibling is getting married.
